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The month of February carries deep lessons in self-nurturing. When the world around us goes through changes, we reach for stability and nurturing either from outside ourselves or inside ourselves. If you typically look outside yourself to receive nurturing, you will probably feel like you are not able to get filled up this month. What used to feel good no longer does the trick. If you have learned how to nurture yourself from the inside, you will be able to step outside yourself and see the bigger picture. Life as a whole will become more manageable because you will be able to see how to take care of yourself in any given situation.
When you are filled from the inside, you are no longer reaching outside yourself. Then, it does not matter what is going on outside, because you are not relying on your outer life to fill you. People and situations then become a bonus in your life. You will be able to give to others in a clean way because you are not expecting anything in return. That is a big one. The past few months have really highlighted inner lessons around the ability to fill and nurture ourselves. I am seeing so many people doing amazing work on themselves, which helps the planet shift even higher!
I lived in Seattle from 1997 through 2001, then left to stay at my sisters and mothers for the past one-and-a-half years. Presently, Im staying at my friends place in Los Angeles. Ive been in a "twilight zone" phase it seems forever. Getting any kind of a job has come up with zero result. Im planning on returning to Seattle this month, but somehow, I find it difficult to trust my intuition about whether this is the highest choice I can make. I really dont know whats going on in my life, and Im not sure if making this move will be good for me or not. Im depending on family and friends for financial support to move (just the bare necessities, and I dont mean like most people would have.) Ive been trying to understand the shift of consciousness I need for the doors to open but to no avail. The only door that seems open to me is that an old friend of mine in Seattle whos a healer continues to say to me, "see you soon," and I dont sense anything here in L.A. I need a real overhaul in my life.
Lost in the wilderness
Life can feel confusing and a little foggy when there are not any clear paths to choose from. I want to first bring up an example from your past to help explain what I am going to talk about in the present. When I go back in time say three years ago I am seeing that you were able to make choices more easily because there were options to choose from. The universe provided you with those options in the areas of work, home, and even relationships. It is easy to move forward and feel positive when there are options to choose from. Presently, it is hard to choose a path because there do not seem to be any choices in front of you. The universe does not seem to be giving you options as before. When the flow of life is disturbed it gets hard to trust your intuition too, and the mind starts to second guess any intuitive hits you get. The past was perfect because you were able to learn lessons from the choices you made. From those choices, you learned more about who you are and what you want out of life. Today (and looking over the past year), you are learning how to fill yourself from the inside instead of reaching outside yourself to feel nurtured. Look back at what and who used to be fulfilling for you and now is not.
Instead of just giving you options outside yourself to choose from, it looks like the universe is waiting for you to ask for what you want so it can be provided. Because of all of the work you have done on your inner self, you now get to ask for what feels best for you inside. This is such a positive thing, to have worked so hard on yourself and to be at this point in your life. The universe is offering you a gift.
To make this transition and transformation easier, try asking yourself in each moment, "do I feel fulfilled and nurtured?" If not, see how you can change yourself in that single situation. In this way, you can actually take the goal of filling yourself from the inside and break it down into bite sized chunks.
Remember, how you move through your everyday life will transfer over to your larger goals regarding home, work, and money. Most of the planet is in the same place you are right now. We are all stepping out of old, unfulfilled patterns in our lives. It may feel pretty shaky, but it is really a positive thing. Keep up the excellent work!
I have a question about my son. He is six years old and in first grade. His teacher spoke to me the other day about his ability to learn. She thinks he has ADD. I feel he is an intelligent boy. I know he has always had a lot of energy, more than most children his age. I am a stay-at-home mom, so I am able to help him and watch him play and interact with other children his age. I am concerned about his ability to learn. Can you give me any suggestions about how he can become a better student now or later in life.
Your son is very bright. I know you are aware of this. I am just not sure he is aware of this fact. For that reason, I would like to work with you to help him build his inner strength and in turn be able to gain control over his excess energy. Your son is an intelligent child, yet when that intelligence is combined with a lot of extra energy, concentration and learning become more difficult.
I am sure you have noticed that your son is very sensitive to sound. By working with his most sensitive area, you will be able to help him gain strength and concentration in learning. Our sensitivities can seem to work against us in life; working with them is a bonus and a learning tool. When I say he is sensitive to sound, I do not mean that placing him in a quiet room will help him to learn more easily. A quiet room will actually disturb him. Knowing what kind of sound moves him is key here. In this case, sound with a steady beat, like in music or a metronome, or even a loud watch or a clock, will help him focus. That constant beat will focus his attention and calm his mind so that words and learning can come easier. If a room is quiet or has sudden changes in noise level, the words in his head will become jumbled. A steady beat will actually calm him so that words make sense. Give it a try.
When I look at his energy level, it feels out of his control. I would recommend that your son learn to meditate. It will be a vent for his excess energy, and it will help him calm and control his mind. When I work with clients on meditation, I look at what is passionate and calming for them. When your meditation is passionate, you will want to meditate, and it will have a greater effect on your body. We are all different, and there are so many ways to calm the mind. I feel that your son is most passionate when he is playing by himself and doing a detailed project, such as drawing. By adding drawing to music, as mentioned above, you can create a unique style of meditation. I would recommend doing this for only ten to fifteen minutes at the same time every day. Having a scheduled routine will help him gain strength and control over his mind and energy. It will build a foundation for him. These tools will transfer over to easier learning in school. Your son is a bright and amazing child. He is lucky to have you as a mom.
Deborah Ilg, Intuitive Artist, uses her gift of intuition as a professional spiritual counselor and energy worker. Her practice is based in Seattle, and she offers both phone and office sessions. To contact Deborah, email <firstname.lastname@example.org> or call (206) 985-6601.